The uproar over tiger moms

0 CommentsPrint E-mail Shanghai Daily, February 25, 2011
Adjust font size:

Fierce "tiger mothering" has been around in China but when children are driven to excel, the tigress techniques have triggered a debate over effectiveness and cruelty.

There's a lot of talk about parenting these days, especially since Amy Chua's "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" shocked many parents in the West with her boot camp-like discipline.

The furious discussion - involving some children who say they have been psychologically maimed by tiger moms (hu ma) - has reached China.

The Chinese translation of Amy Chua's "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" has generated heated discussion in China, especially online, and the pro-tigers outnumber the tiger bashers.

"Being a Mother in America," the Chinese title, was released in mid-January, only a few days after its English publication in America. The controversial best-seller in States sold more than 10,000 copies in less than a month, a lot in China.

The book made a stir on weibo, the Chinese equivalent of Twitter, even before its China release.

Some Chinese celebrities re-tweeted American critics of the book and were upset about Chua seeming to represent Chinese mothers and Oriental values. Numerous netizens then criticized the critics of Chinese-style education without having read the book.

"The book is not all about her children and domestic affairs. She also has very interesting reflections on the distinction between Chinese and Western education, based on her experience as a Chinese American," Wang Feifei, editor of the book's Chinese edition from Citic Press Corp, tells Shanghai Daily.

Wang started the project last March, long before the book was published in States. She was impressed by Chua's vivid description of family education as well as her reflections on Chinese and Western values in general.

She recommends Chinese readers to view the book as an encouraging biography rather than a guide to child education.

After it was published, the book was ranked among the top 10 best-sellers on China's major book sales sites, www.dangdang.com and www.joyo.com.

"Judging from comments on sales websites, it seems that 70-80 percent of Chinese readers agree with Chua's methods or at least consider her story useful. Most teachers also agree with her while education experts have rather divergent ideas," Wang says.

Many self-reporting surveys on major sites including weibo also show more followers than critics. One of Chua's fans is Michelle Zhang, a 29-year-old communications manager at an advertising firm, who has a three-year-old son.

"My foreign colleagues are so shocked by some details of the book, especially where Chua would call her daughters idiots and threaten to burn their dolls. But this seems natural to me and many other Chinese, who grew up in an even stricter environment. And our ancestors have been like that for thousands of years," Zhang says.

She still remembers how her mother, even stricter than Chua, smacked her palms with a wooden stick when she violated house rules or got bad grades.

And her father played the nice guy to balance it out, as her parents had agreed before she was even born.

Zhang's parents swear by the ancient Chinese (and universal) saying, "Spare the rod and spoil the child," and so does Zhang.

"Of course, I don't plan to hit my son physically as my parents hit me," she says. "But strictness is essential. I must train and discipline him when he is little."

On the other hand, readers like Zhu Ling, a 33-year-old entrepreneur, vow not to treat their children the way their parents treated them.

"Maybe I have to thank my mom for what she made me do to achieve who I am now. But I still think it was much too painful. I don't want my two-year-old daughter to experience the same pressure and unpleasant feelings," she says.

1   2   3   Next  


Print E-mail Bookmark and Share

Go to Forum >>0 Comments

No comments.

Add your comments...

  • User Name Required
  • Your Comment
  • Racist, abusive and off-topic comments may be removed by the moderator.
Send your storiesGet more from China.org.cnMobileRSSNewsletter
主站蜘蛛池模板: 日本高清天码一区在线播放| 又黄又骚的网站| 欧美日韩国产三级| 国产一级高清免费观看| xyx性爽欧美| 日本19禁啪啪无遮挡大尺度| 亚洲第一网站男人都懂| 色在线亚洲视频www| 国产精品白浆在线观看无码专区| videos欧美成人| 日韩AV无码一区二区三区不卡毛片| 人人妻人人做人人爽| 超碰色偷偷男人的天堂| 国产日韩精品中文字无码| yy6080理论午夜一级毛片| 无码一区二区三区在线观看| 亚洲国产一成人久久精品| 清冷受被放置play分腿器| 免费日产乱码卡一卡2卡三卡四| 麻豆狠色伊人亚洲综合网站| 国内女人喷潮完整视频| 中文字幕成人乱码在线电影| 极品新婚夜少妇真紧| 亚洲成a人片在线观看精品| 精品国产黑色丝袜高跟鞋| 国产无套在线播放| free性满足hd极品| 国产精品扒开腿做爽爽爽视频| 91精品久久久久久久99蜜桃 | 国产成视频在线观看| 中文字幕日韩丝袜一区| 国产精品午夜剧场| mm131嫩王语纯翘臀| 成人人观看的免费毛片| 久久婷婷电影网| 欧美影院在线观看| 午夜影视在线观看| 绿巨人app入口| 国产午夜成人AV在线播放| 黄色毛片在线看| 国产夫妻在线视频|