Criticized by some as a harlot but canonized by others as a
charming expecting mother, a Chinese blogger is stirring a lot of
on-line debate because she's not married.
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"Ground Melon Pig", as she calls herself, has decided to become
a single mother after breaking up with her boyfriend. Her blog,
titled "Words to my Baby", is filled with cute little poems to her
unborn child whom she calls 'Piggy'.
Reaction to her writings has been varied and abundant. Since she
started writing in August, 600,000 viewers of her blog have left
postings. The postings show many people still have hard-held moral
beliefs about single parenthood while others are embracing more
liberal attitudes.
The massive number of postings, most of which offer
well-intended advise and opinion, indicates China's growing
tolerance of diverse opinions.
"Ground Melon Pig", a young reporter at a newspaper in Beijing,
defends her choice to go through with her pregnancy. "It's not
impulsive. I know I'll face many difficulties in the future, but I
believe they can be solved if I have faith." she writes.
Some postings are from other single mothers who confide their
feelings, and praise and support "Ground Melon Pig" for her
courage.?
"Love yourself and love your 'piggy', that's enough. It's your
own business, you're not hurting anyone. Be happy and have the
courage to do what you want." says a writing use the name
Caoming.
Doubters of "Ground Melon Pig's" choice are concerned the
mother-to-be could be making a big mistake that will hurt her
future. "You will have a very hard later life." said another
writing under the name Linva.
"Your baby's life will be incomplete without a father and your
parents will definitely face great pressure from the public" write
"Kerenkexin".
"Ground Melon Pig" is not alone. Many single mothers have set up
websites and Internet forums to share their feelings.
"As long as you are financially and spiritually secure, being a
single mother is nothing special. Society is becoming more
tolerant." said a netizen called "Blue rain" on "Single Mother
Forum".
Chinese marriage laws don't prevent unmarried women from having
babies.
The Population and Family Planning Law stipulates children of
unmarried women have the same rights and enjoy the same treatment
as offspring of married women, said Wu Changzhen, a professor with
the China University of Political Science and Law.
"People should respect unmarried women's right to have babies.”
said Xia Xueluan, a sociology professor with?Peking
University.
"Economic and social burdens might force some single mothers to
give up their children." said Xia.
(Xinhua News Agency October 15, 2006)